PRAISE

P

Positive

"That is a great question, tell me what you know about that?" ‘I’m really pleased you came and checked that with me…’

  • Try not to react negatively
  • Project a positive and happy attitude to questions about sex and relationships
  • This positive attitude continues into their adult life
  • Have a laugh
  • A negative reaction is worse than an inadequate answer
R

Respectful Relationships

"The reason we don't say that word to someone is because it is offensive to their way of life..."

  • Core of all Sexuality Education and answers to kids questions
  • Positive social relationships
  • Gives them an ability to manage understand and resolve conflict
  • Base all your discussions on respect to others
A

Accurate Answers

“Mummy accepted the seed from Daddy’s penis into her vagina, where it travelled up to meet the egg"

  • We often joke to avoid the embarrassing truth. Don’t avoid it
  • Use real terminology – bottom, penis, vulva and vagina , testicles. Normalise words
  • Gives a vocabulary they can use in any situation – child or adult (prevention of sexual abuse)
  • Starts conversation for future
I

Information

"Our family belief is that…" 0r "Other ways a baby can be born are..."

  • Give additional more detailed information if it is relevant to the topic
  • Explain your expectations, values, beliefs
  • They need to know what is expected and appropriate
  • Otherwise they will form their opinions from the School yard or unsupervised internet
S

Simple

"There are many types of families, her family has two mummies who love each other…and her dad lives-in a different house..."

How much to give? Keep the answer simple brief and factual, only what they ask for. They will ask for more if they want it.

E

Empowering

"If something appears on the screen that you should not see, turn the iPad over and come and get an adult" or "You can say to your mates - searching 'boobs' on the internet is boring let's look up goal of the year instead," ...then come and tell me about it when you get home

  • Give solutions i.e.…. Turn off the screen, press the back key. If it does not feel right …. Its ok to say no
  • Confidence in developing their own values and believes
  • Gives them other behaviour options
  • Remind them: ‘You can ask/tell me anything…’