What is typically expected sexuality behaviour of children? A new resource…

Traffic Lights Resource

What has always been a brilliant resource has just got even better.

Old Traffic Lights  version 

New Traffic Lights version

The new version talks about what is ‘typically developmentally appropriate’ rather than ‘normal’ and also has us focus more on the ‘context’ of behaviour as more important than the ‘actual’ behaviour.

“…Traffic Lights® provides guidance that is age and developmentally appropriate, positive and protective. Traffic Lights® uses the categories of green, orange and red light to help adults identify, understand, and respond to children and young people’s sexual behaviours, to support healthy sexual development and can help protect children and young people from harm or abuse. Traffic Lights® can be used by a wide variety of professionals including schools, early childhood education and care centres, health professionals, social workers, psychologists and may also be used by families…” 

Some examples of changes in language from the resource include:

Normal behaviour Typically expected behaviour
Boyfriend  or Girlfriend Relationship of any gender or peer of any gender 
Kissing/touching  Mutually consenting *sexual activity for pleasure in private

(don’t focus on or name behaviour because it is about context) 


*My preference would be to replace sexual with intimate here


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Online traffic light tool

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