AFL Grand Final is a celebration – not an excuse for family and gender based violence

Grand Final day is the perfect teachable opportunity to have a conversation about respect. 

Respect on the field, respect of fellow supporters, respect towards family and partners, as well as respectful behaviour and the relationship to alcohol.

Drinking Cultures

According to a Vic Health report about drinking cultures and sports events;  Police recorded that family incidents were significantly elevated on Melbourne Cup Day…. and among females on the day of the AFL Grand Final.

Thanks to the Australian  Government’s Violence Against Women: Let’s Stop It At The Start: Campaign we can learn about the strong evidence that tells us that:

“Not all disrespect towards women results in violence.  But all violence against women starts with disrespectful behaviour.”

Conversations about respect should also include breaking down rigid gender stereotypes.  Which are another well-documented cause of family violence and disrespect. In a class of 11-year-olds recently when I mentioned that we were going to talk about rigid gender stereotypes and power imbalances a boy yelled out “Yeh powerful!!!” with his fist in the air and flexing his muscle, suggesting men are more powerful than women. By the end of the class, the teachers were nearly in tears, with how powerful and positive the peer discussion was that resulted from one of the respectful relationship gender stereotypes activity I conducted.

To help reduce family violence and violence against women, we need to target disrespectful behaviour and beliefs as well as breakdown high-risk gender stereotypes, that kids develop from a young age.  We can work towards achieving this through adults changing behaviour & attitudes and ensure education throughout the informative school years.

Disrespect starts with the beliefs and attitudes we develop from a young age. Our children form their beliefs from the world around them – what they hear, see and talk about. And from the stories, people and experiences that are an integral part of their childhood.  Use these parent resources to help you think about rigid gender stereotypes and how they affect your children. 

What are risky gender stereotypes? The AFL Equality Series Gender Equality Resources lists these:

“The below examples outline some traditional attitudes and behaviours relating to gender that are considered risky and lead to unhealthy relationships between men and women:

  •  For women  
    • Women clean, cook and look after the children  
    • Women should earn less money than men and don’t need an education  
    • Women should be feminine and emotional and shouldn’t have jobs such as a mechanic or truck driver, or play masculine sports 
  • For Men  
    • Men are strong and good at sports, like fishing, camping and being outdoors.  
    • Men should be in charge of a relationship  
    • Men don’t cook, clean, sew or do crafts and do not get emotional 

The Line is another resources for adults to dig deep into exploring your own gender stereotype beliefs: 

“Men tend to be more prone to becoming hostile and violent towards women if they:

  • have been socialised to adopt rigid, traditional gender roles and stereotypes (e.g., men should be competitive and dominant; women should be cooperative and nurturing) (VicHealth, 2007),
  • believe that men’s superiority over women is a ‘natural order’ that should be preserved (Reidy et al., 2009),
  • feel their masculinity or authority has been threatened – particularly if women have not complied with their gender role expectations (Gallagher & Parrott, 2011)”

This cluster of interacting factors that underpin the most common pattern of domestic violence are identified from decades of research by Australia’s leading domestic violence prevention agencies, such as Our Watch, VicHealth, DVRCV* and ANROWS  as outlined in an article By Dr Peter Streker in Psychology Today October 2015, Volume 37 | Issue 5

Parents, you play a vital role in ensuring the safety of your kids.  Teach them about respect via ongoing conversations and teachable moments.  

More resources for you below. 

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Respect Rap Video 

Youtube video:https://youtu.be/kYu3mFjuhTM

Respect World health resources:

https://www.who.int/reproductivehealth/publications/preventing-vaw-framework-policymakers/en/

Run like a girl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjJQBjWYDTs

Let’s change the story violence against women in Australia:

https://www.theline.org.au/primer-what-drives-violence-against-women

Links to related  blogs

http://talkingthetalksexed.com.au/the-cycle-of-violence-against-women-starts-with-disrespect-an-essential-checklist-for-every-parent/

http://talkingthetalksexed.com.au/todays-news-rape-a-teen-shares-the-video-on-social-media-parents-use-this-as-a-teachable-moment/

Intimate partner violence is one of the most common forms of violence against women, with 1.5% of women reporting violence by a current or former partner in the past 12 months, and 16.9% reporting intimate partner violence since the age of 15 (compared to 0.6% of men in the past 12 months and 5.3% of men since the age of 15).[10] A more recent study has estimated that 27.5% of Australian women have experienced violence or emotional abuse by a current or previous partner.[11] https://www.humanrights.gov.au/our-work/legal/submission/violence-against-women-australia-2017

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